Love is a very important element and is heavily emphasized in Islam, especially in building a happy family. Love can be established through harmonious relationships among all members of the family and by respecting and helping each other. Prophet Muhammad said in a Hadith which was narrated by Imam al-Tirmidhi:
Which means: “Whoever does not love mankind, will not be loved by Allah.” [Narrated by al-Tirmidhi].
However, it is not that easy for a married couple to form a happy family that is built on devotion to Allah the Almighty and to receives His mercy in this world and in the hereafter. Allah says in the Quran in Chapter 66 (Surah al-Tahrim), verse (ayat) 6:
Which means: “O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.” [Al-Quran, Surah al-Tahrim, verse 66].
Based on this verse, the leader of a household (either husband or wife) is responsible for establishing the basic rules of the household so that they will be in accordance with Islamic law. In other words, to form a happy family, one needs to learn the teachings of Islam. Besides, once in a while we can try to make our family members happy.
Both parents and children need to perform their roles and responsibilities in making a happy family. This responsibility should be instilled from the beginning of marriage so parents will be the first to give guidance to their children, especially in matters related to faith, morality and Islamic law. Allah the Almighty says in the Quran in Chapter 31 (Surah Luqman), verse (ayat) 13:
Which means: And [mention, O Muhammad], when Luqman said to his son while he was instructing him, “O my son, do not associate [anything] with Allah. Indeed, association [with him] is a great injustice.” [Al-Quran, Surah Luqman, verse 13].
A happy family must be built on certain Islamic requirements such as giving priority to learning the true monotheistic knowledge. Both husbands and wives should be aware of their rights and responsibilities. Among other things, husbands must provide maintenance and education for their children and wives. Whereas wives must respect and obey their husbands as long as their demands do not conflict with Islamic law.
This is the foundation of building a happy home as mentioned by Allah the Almighty in the Quran in Chapter 30 (Surah al-Rum), verse (ayat) 21:
Which means: “And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them, and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.” [Al-Quran, Surah al-Rum, verse 21].
The Prophet said in a Hadith which was narrated by Ibn Majah:
Which means: “The best among you is the best to his family, and when one of the family members dies do not remember anything except for what is good about him”. [Narrated by Ibn Majah].
Let us hope that we will succeed in building harmonious families that bring many blessings to society and the country. Let us all recite the supplication that Allah has mentioned in the Quran in Chapter 25 (Surah al-Furqan), verse (ayat) 74:
Which means: And those who say, “Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.” [Al-Quran, Surah al-Furqan, verse 74].